When it happened (the death of your husband) you might think God had forsaken you. You might think He had abandoned you; to who? I remember His words in the book of Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the thoughts that I think towards you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to …
In continuation of our discussion on how to develop Personal Competence (self-awareness and self-management) aspect of Emotional Intelligence, we will discuss the Basics of Self Awareness today. To develop the Self Awareness skill: you must recognize your emotions, how they affect you and others, and who & what push your buttons recognize and understand your …
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Marriage is like a school where you learn something new every day. Sometimes, you learn same things repeatedly until you understand through mistakes or desire to get it right. You learn both intellectually and behavioural . Your IQ is a measure of your logical and analytical skills which helps you to succeed …
Children are gifts from God. I remember growing up as a child, my father was hardly around because of the nature of his job. But the few days he was around he did school runs, cooked for us, at times took us out. While taking us out he sang for us. He preferred to administer …
The single person is faced with a major decision to make as regards the choice of a marriage partner. It is quite Unfortunate that most don’t know what to look out for before making such decision. It is very important to engage your mind and your thinking faculties and not just depend on your emotions. …
Quite a number of times I’ve heard women complain about how overbearing their husbands are when it comes to sex. Some have even given up on that aspect of their lives and relationships. I was once there! I woke up at 4am in the morning, left for work at 5am after ensuring everything was set …
How can I be sure he will be able to perform sexually if we don’t try it now? We asked the experts this question and this is what they have to say…. Dabira Ipoola A healthy relationship does not require sex in order to prove anything. Love is patient, a man and woman who are …
The moment I heard the key turn in the lock, my heart skipped a beat. I just did not know what to expect anymore. My life had become like the script of a horror movie, with me as the innocent victim. I had so many questions to ask. ‘How did I get into this?’ This …
The door opened slowly but the boy who lay on the bed staring into the empty space ahead of him did not even notice. He saw beyond the walls to a place tucked deep in his memory. ‘What could be bothering a genius like you?’ The voice sounded close to his ears. ‘Oh! Roland. I …
Henry looked past me as if seeing the events that led up to the depravity that now plagued him. I listened as he told his story. I was initiated into the gay circle during my secondary school days. When I started the school, I was a happy little boy. Many of the senior boys seemed …
I lay on the bed, staring into space throughout that day. I refused to eat anything or talk. My mind was numb. I listened as my mentor spoke but I could not hear much of what he said. The horror images of Henry and Collins kept running through my mind and the tears kept flowing. …
The arrival hall of the Murtala Mohammed Airport in Lagos was packed full with travellers. Many milled around getting food and drinks; others stood by and picked their luggage. I wheeled my pint size suitcase and walked towards the revolving doors, a smile on my face. I knew how surprised Henry would be to see …
Can I say till I met him? Sure I can. For though I had met him before, the person that I encountered again was a new man……..different from the one I knew earlier. It was two years after my graduation from the university. I was still a lovely rose in the wild. I was working …
In my final year, I took an elective course in the History department. There I made friends with a group of girls in class who were as notorious as I was. There was a difference between us though. While my friends went after men for money, I went in for the thrills……….having men turn to …
MY PAST Men! They never cease to amuse me with the way they carry on. Most of them bestride the female world with arrogance, much like the legendary Colossus as Shakespeare of old did say. I wonder if they are really in control the way they try to make we all think they are. Can …
Being in a long distance relationship can be complicated, lonely at times, and just plain tough. However, if you have decided that this type of relationship is for you, being ready to take on some of the challenges that come with that are essential. Often, with distance comes more appreciation for the simple things in …
Accurate statistics on the prevalence of sexual abuse are difficult to collect because of problems of underreporting and the lack of one definition of what constitutes such abuse. However, there is general agreement among mental health and Sexual professionals that ‘Sexual Abuse’ is any sort of non-consensual sexual contact. Sexual abuse can happen to children, …
It has been ten months since I lost my job; I got to the bank one morning and was given a termination letter. It was very unexpected as I had been one of the best in my branch but the bank was downsizing and I was a victim. I got back home almost in tears, …
Sometimes, when I hear people online and on TV talk about age, I feel like they’re all wrong. They want to say that your work, no matter what field you’re in, is best when you’re young—as if there’s some magic age where you’re incredible, and then it bursts and you’re left trying to be a …
Commitment in a relationship is the protection of each others: (i) interest (ii) values (iii) goals/ vision (iv) ideas. It is highly important to consciously protect what makes up your partner’s life. No one buys trust but it could be earned, not on a platter of gold but on a platter of commitment! Your consent …