Accurate statistics on the prevalence of sexual abuse are difficult to collect because of problems of underreporting and the lack of one definition of what constitutes such abuse. However, there is general agreement among mental health and Sexual professionals that ‘Sexual Abuse’ is any sort of non-consensual sexual contact. Sexual abuse can happen to children, …
It has been ten months since I lost my job; I got to the bank one morning and was given a termination letter. It was very unexpected as I had been one of the best in my branch but the bank was downsizing and I was a victim. I got back home almost in tears, …
Sometimes, when I hear people online and on TV talk about age, I feel like they’re all wrong. They want to say that your work, no matter what field you’re in, is best when you’re young—as if there’s some magic age where you’re incredible, and then it bursts and you’re left trying to be a …
Commitment in a relationship is the protection of each others: (i) interest (ii) values (iii) goals/ vision (iv) ideas. It is highly important to consciously protect what makes up your partner’s life. No one buys trust but it could be earned, not on a platter of gold but on a platter of commitment! Your consent …
Peter’s eyes never left mine as the tale began. ‘I hated you with a passion for the way you destroyed my happiness with Lovette. I loved that lady like my own flesh. She is your sister so you know what a loving person she was and probably still is. I could never forgive you for …
The automated voice drowned out the voice of hope that sprouted slowly in my heart. It was the same old response. Each time I tried to call the number. The voice always mocked me: ‘The number you have called is not available.’ ‘Could there be no respite for me?’ I asked no one in particular. …
Single Parenting has becoming Popular in today’s world. You may suddenly find yourself become a single parent due to divorce, separation or death of a spouse. Raising children by two parents is not an easy task not to talk of only one person doing the job. Making this statement is not to cause any worries …
Adjusting to life on one income after the loss of job of a partner, an illness where one partner can no longer work, death of a partner or a divorce can come as a huge shock. For couples accustomed to living on two incomes or in the case of once again being single the …
We asked several counselors and opinion leaders this question and here is a compilation of what they have to say: Johnny King A long time ago, before I got married I overheard a lady lament about her spouse and this is what she said; “I thought we were a match made in heaven, but why …
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It has become an unpalatable recurring decimal amongst us that when our people pass on, invariably, their passage is marked with myriads of problems. Take a look at three true-to-life cases: Scenario 1 Tamuno worked in several blue-chip establishments in the course of his 25 – year work history in paid employment. In each …
It is official! The marriage is dissolved. The tie has been severed and the once professed “loving till death do us part” may, if care is not taken became “loathing till death do us part”. You wonder why in spite of the bickering and bitterness, arguments and accusations, you still feel a sense of loss …
Does your partner feel like the most important person in your life? Does your partner know how much you love them? Are you doing everything you can to show these things to your partner? If not, you can change things starting today. You don’t have to wait for a certain moment, hour or day. Just …
Our lives are busy. We have work, kids and hobbies that keep us busy. However, the most important thing that we need to hold on to our sanity is our relationship with our partner. Every relationship is different, but in order for any relationship to survive and not become a statistic we have to …
We have all heard that in any relationship that the quality of time is so much better than the quantity of time you spend together. Would you rather spend five minutes of close time with your partner or spend two hours of time with your partner doing nothing? In most cases people would choose the …
Dear single, the choice of a life partner is one of the most important decisions you will ever make in your life! And on a daily basis you will still have to be making decisions concerning the relationship. Some decisions are small while others are extremely big. The question is, have you been making the …
Things in the world around us have changed over the years and the dating scene is no exception. With the internet, speed dating, etc., dating and finding that right someone have gotten just a little easier, but harder all the same. Now you can go online to many different websites and decide who you …
What is conflict? Conflict refers to some form of friction, disagreement, or discord arising within a group when the beliefs or actions of one or more members of the group are either resisted by or unacceptable to one or more members of another group. This is a usual occurrence in relationships. Conflict in itself isn’t bad, …
Life is in phases and men are in sizes! What happens when the marital relationship begins dwindling? Anxiety develops- anxiety that may destroy the couple’s basic outlook on relationships. However before aiming to save a relationship going downhill, we need to understand the 4 stages that every marital relationship goes through. These are: Romance or …
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Granted, it is difficult to compromise in the heat of marital battle. It is often better to first take a time out, calm down and then communicate what is in your heart. The following communication tips will help: Rose and John have been married for 17 years, and love each other, yet have been arguing …
It is easier to avoid a fight than stop one after it has started! Once the fight starts, you don’t feel capable of ending the argument with an apology or an act of tenderness. Your natural reaction would have taken control of you. You waste hours feeling furious as opposed to spending great time with …
A good marriage is a life-time building project. The type of house you want (personal vision) would determine the area, your budget, the kind of contractors and the required materials. Although, there are some popular mode of finding suitable plots of land (partner) such as through estate agents, adverts or word of mouth (family, …