“It’s amazing how many parents realize the extent to which their child has bottled up their feelings – once the child feels safe, they can speak openly for the first time”. Children really appreciate being listened to. They pick up on conflict and if they don’t have another outlet it can badly affect them.
Parenting is one of the most valuable jobs any of us will ever do and yet, despite libraries full of books on the subject, many feel that they are not equipped to do it well. This feeling can become more marked as your child enters adolescence.
Whilst parenting can be massively rewarding it can also be a real very challenge – sometimes more than others. Parents are not only involved in tending to the daily and differing needs of a baby, child or adolescent, they are also responsible for ensuring that their children develop the skills they need to function practically and socially. As a parent, you must protect, seek help where necessary, listen to, spend time with, provide affection, consistency, and age appropriate limits. All whilst taking into consideration each individual child’s unique personality.
No wonder then that parenting can become overwhelming, particularly when there are other issues at play within the family such as specific, challenging situations or where there are behavioral concerns. This is where support from a non-judgmental and independent professional can help.
What do you do when your child refuses to go to school or is constantly getting into trouble at school?What if your teenager seems to be drifting, gets in with the ‘wrong’ crowd or starts to experiment with drugs or alcohol?
What if your teenager no longer listens to you, respects you or behaves abusively towards you?
You may be facing a specific parenting challenge, around your child’s mental health concern or behavioural issue, for example. Whilst they may well be receiving support, the parents own feelings and emotions may be left unaddressed which may impact the rest of the family’s well-being.
You may have your own mental health or other issues that impact on your ability to parent.
Becoming a parent can have a major impact on your relationship as a couple both positive and negative, and can be a contributing factor to relationship distress.
Family networks are becoming smaller than they used to be and parenting can be a lonely job. This feeling of isolation can be even more pronounced when sole parenting.
Seeing a counsellor is not only for parents who feel their family is in crisis or their child is acting out in extreme ways, however, and many parents may find it helpful to speak to someone around parenting in general.
Speaking to a counsellor about parenting can help to improve communication and enhance relationships both in and out of the family. Positive and consistent communication is key for the child to understand what is expected of them. Relationship counselling may also help to strengthen parenting skills.
There are times when relationships in families can get stuck at particular transitions in life. Some transitions can be very stressful for families, like having a baby, children going to kindergarten, primary or high school, or more significant adjustments, such as a separation or divorce, becoming a stepfamily, or a death of a family member.
For all of these adjustments, we believe it is important to talk things through early. Our counsellors can help you and your family to assess needs, identify areas for change, and to use your strengths to restore or repair your relationships.
Our counsellors will develop a plan with you and offer a mixture of individual, couple, parent and/or family work. We can also see your child, teenager or adolescent for individual sessions.