Intravaginal Ejaculation Latency time(IELT) is the time taken by a man to ejaculate during vaginal penetration.
A survey carried out in 2008 proved that it takes 7 mins for an average man to ejaculate while between 15-20 mins for an average woman to ejaculate.
Little wonder why most women don’t come because of the time difference. In fact, some men come much earlier. This leaves a lot of wives stranded.
Fortunately, the research also says most men and women are normal but simply need to understand their sexual beings properly to both achieve their super goal.
This brings us to the roles wives can perform to help their husbands out.
HOW THE WIFE CAN HELP
1) Communication is key.
It can’t be over emphasized the major role communication plays in every aspect of marriage.
As the saying goes, we can’t give what we don’t have, hence the need to understand our bodies so as to communicate effectively what areas need to be explored.
Also, we can read books on sexual intimacy, learn about what works for each of us as unique beings.
We are all different and most men just gamble trying hard to make their wives cross that line. We have to be specific and tell them what thrills us.
2. Extended Foreplay
Due to our different wiring, men think more about sex than women. Before having sex, a man could have been nursing it for several hours. While women might just start thinking about it 5 mins before the event.
It’s like a car that has been warming up for a while and another which just got a key inserted into its ignition. Hence, the need to encourage our husbands to dwell longer on foreplay to get us about 10 mins closer.
3. The use of lubricants and oral sex
These can be used to our advantage if we are comfortable with them. Delay lubricants help to keep husbands longer which can match up to their wives timing.
4. Take the pressure off him
Wives shouldn’t perceive their husbands as less capable when they arrive when we are just getting started. Just as a teacher with pupils, we need to be patient in putting them through on how to get us to that point. They could be stressed from work, financial stress and might just be willing to get through as soon as possible. We need to help them relax Ejaculation.
On a final note, let me touch more on communication.
It’s important for the woman to come first so very prolonged foreplay is required. Sometimes, our bodies change, what worked for us last month may not work this month, we need to be alert so that we can continue to update our husbands.
Sometimes husbands might let the ego thing get in the way while some may resist attempts at educating them as they feel it might make them lesser men but this should not be so, as they might never learn the tricks and tips if she doesn’t tell you.
God intended it to be so much fun and be enjoyed 100%. The time difference is deliberate by him to avoid selfishness. Both partners need to work through it together to achieve the goal.
It’s like a bank account, men have to deposit lots of care, support, plenty hugs to their wives in order to withdraw maximum fun and satisfaction during sexual intercourse.
There’s also a way you can help massage the penis to help delay the release. Gently stroke the penis towards the tip, when you get to the tip, squeeze it, don’t exert much pressure, the squeeze will send the sperm back. Do it like 10 times before he enters you, with this the brain will tell the sperm to go back once they are close to the tip and that will make the man last longer and can reduce premature Ejaculation.
Also men should work on leg exercises like squats on a daily basis as it tones your leg muscle which helps straighten your penis. If you must know, sexual strength comes from the leg. Couples can also be spontaneous when it comes to sex positions, you can cut down sex on the bed to 8% and try other positions it also helps in premature Ejaculation.